My thoughts as I sit here at my Hot Mama Business Training Camp in Sooke, BC….
I have always had my eye on this Hot Mama “thing,” but I realize now that I never truly saw or understood all that it encompasses. I thought, “family based fitness, educating mums and children on a healthier lifestyle, building your support network and community to those that come to your classes”. It sounds great, right?.
And it is.
But being here, I am finally beginning to grasp the enormity and depth of what Hot Mama is, what it can provide for others and consequently for me!
I have always loved sport, running, swimming, team games. I have always tried to get others involved in sport and exercise, with some successes. Others not so much. I guess people may not realize that I totally understand the barriers to exercise and want to help others get beyond that. I want to reach beyond the judgements that are assumed in society. I understand what it feels like to be so low in confidence you do not want to be seen exercising in public, to be so afraid of what others may think of you, to feel embarrassed and apologise for nothing more than being you. I want to help others out of that place and develop a belief in themselves, be proud of their achievements and be strong in their choices, knowing it is them that they are doing it for. Until this week I never fully realized just how powerful Hot Mama. I never realised that Hot Mama will enable me to achieve this.
So why does this experience resonate so deeply within me? Because community, the support network from a range of different people is just so so so important. To anyone, but especially new Mums.
I remember when I was pregnant I had a couple of friends that I talked to, my Mum was always there, but I never really shared all my anxieties and worries. And when Kiki came along, I continued to cover all the anxieties up. Everyone thought I was doing great. Perhaps on some level I was. I was so happy. I had a fabulous baby. She was “good” baby. Life was and is, good. But boy did I make mistakes. And if only there had been this Hot Mama community there for me at that time, I know that things would have been different!
When I was pregnant, I went from being super active to 20 weeks bed rest. This was hard. Of course I worried about the baby, but as a protective mechanism didn’t let myself bond those first months. I gained A LOT of weight. Now yes, I was pregnant, I was meant to. But I had gained what was “normal full term weight gain” in the first 11 weeks. This was so hard for me. The physical changes came quicker than I could accept them mentally. I was grumpy, anxious, miserable. I hated being pregnant and I had no one that I felt that I could share this with. After 6 months I could do gentle exercise again. My mood lifted the next day, I felt more like me again! (Just with a few worries about motherhood, childbirth, weight gain…)
Now I was really lucky, I had an easy labour, no problems or complications. Home the next day. We were doing well, I was loving being a Mum. I was active, walking the dogs straight away and running again in no time! I wanted to be fit again and I was achieving it all. I had it all together.
Except…then I didn’t have it all together. Getting active quickly turned into seriously competitive running, training, weight loss, anorexia, mum-guilt to the extreme.
Today, I am well. I have a FABULOUS daughter, who cracks me up and I admire so much for her strength, determination, sense of humour. I engage with her. I engage with other Mums. Other kids. I do things for my child, I balance that with doing things for me too. I am in a really good place now and I will never go back to where I was. This has taken me five years to get to. Five years of really hard work to allow myself to reach out to others, to ask for help and to take from them when I need to. Five years to allow myself to have a support network. And, I now realise that was all I needed in the first place.
I needed other people who understood where I was in life. I needed people to support me through those changes. I cannot begin to describe how important this is and how passionately I feel about Hot Mama. And that is exactly what Hot Mama is.I am so very privileged that I have the opportunity to develop this concept at home, to give that community to others and allow them to grow and develop
I am so very privileged that I have the opportunity to develop this concept at home in the United Kingdom. I will bring this Hot Mama community to others and allow them to grow and develop it too. It just makes sense. I have been here at training with Hot Mama for two days and it humbles me. I have fire in my belly imagining what this can and will do for others and I’m honoured that I can give that out. This community is amazing, inspiring and it truly excites me. It has resonated within me deeper than I could have ever imagined. I cannot wait to let others see it….. and maybe even do the same for them.
This Hot Mama community is amazing, inspiring and it truly excites me. It has resonated within me deeper than I could have ever imagined. I cannot wait to let others see it….. and maybe even do the same for them. Bring it on, UK Hot Mamas…I got you.